So the other week I talked about how sex could be used as a way to help you lose weight (great for those new year's resolutions), now we've got the flip side of that idea - exercise that helps you get in shape for sex. Maybe it doesn't seem as immediately satisfying (heh), but the long term effects can be pretty incredible. Improving your cardiov.cting to a young woman’s condition, it’s hard not to feel that what they are really upset about is the fact that she had sex in the first place. Getting pregnant is basically how she got caught. Of course, in the case of the extreme policy that dildos the Delhi Charter School’s had for the last few years, you could get “caught” by suspicion alone. According to the policy:
The suspected student really makes her sound like a criminal, doesn’t it?
My first question when I read this was what exactly constitutes the suspicion of pregnancy: a teacher notices that a girl’s breasts have grown larger, a coach notes that her cheerleading uniform no longer fits, an administrator sees her eating saltines in the hallway? I suppose any of these scenarios are possible but my guess is that if this part of the policy was ever implemented it was not because of any of these physical change but because of the school’s rumor mill.
Young people like to talk about who is having sex with whom and word of a pregnancy or a pregnancy scare inevitably spreads like wildfire in high school. Let’s face it, even in this day and age when the majority of students have had sex by the time they graduate high school, some students (or should I say some girls) still get labeled “sluts” by their peers. This is always unfair not to mention usually inaccurate. Bardwell says that students are constantly overestimating how much sex their peers are having. She notes:
Nonetheless, under this policy it seems that based on nothing more than a rumor, a girl could have found herself sitting in the principal’s office across from her parents having to defend her behavior and then in a doctor’s office having sexy girl to prove she’s not pregnant or admit she is.
Teens are clearly not the only ones who label young women based on whether or not they’ve had sex or if they’ve had “too much” sex to be socially acceptable. One of my issues with abstinence-only-until-marriage programs is the way in which most set up a dichotomy between sexually-active students (who are described as having low moral standards, lacking in character, and facing a terrible future) and those who remained abstinent (who are clearly moral, upstanding citizens, destined to succeed in life).
Sexual behavior is a normal part of teen years—63 percent of all teens have had vaginal intercourse by their senior year in high school. It is completely inappropriate for a school to tell these students (even if they suspect one of them is pregnant) that they are in any way less worthy of our love, trust, or respect than their peers who have not had sex.
Moreover, most of us (even those who hope they stay abstinent as teenager) want our young people to grow up to be sexually healthy and to view sex as a natural and pleasurable part of life. The message that this policy sends—that being suspected of having had sex is something that gets you called to the principal’s office, that sex is bad—runs counter to our hopes for our young people’s future.
Different Standards Apply to Girls than Boys
The part of the policy that made it not just disturbing but illegal was its one-sided nature. It treats a male and a female engaging in the same behavior differently and forces the female to suffer public humiliation and disruption to her education. There were no consequences for the “suspected student’s” male partner. Here we go again, reinforcing the society double standard that says that boys who have sex are studs but the girls they do it with are whores. Bardwell says:
Young people need to understand that partners of both sexes have equal rights when it comes to deciding on sexual behavior, should take equal responsibility in protecting themselves and their partners from STDs and unintended pregnancy, and will both need to face any consequences that result.
Your Reproductive Health Doesn’t Belong You
Oddly, I think I was most disturbed by the part of the policy which said that the school could not only force a suspected student to get a pregnancy test but could refer her to the doctor of its sex toys for men choice for that test. Though pregnancy tests are not invasive—you just pee on a stick—this trip to a strange doctor may very well be the first time a young women receives any reproductive health care. Being forced to do so with someone she does not know and has not chosen—not to mention someone who is going to share her test results with school officials—does not seem like the best introduction to such care.
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Researchers suggest it is possible that older men have a different concept of masculinity than the younger men in the survey.
Older men's greater focus on close, kin-oriented relationships increases their likelihood of adopting new definitions of masculinity that emphasize conveying experience and mentoring rather than independence and autonomy, and under these circumstances partner betweenness is less likely to trigger erectile dysfunction, Cornwell said.
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Cornwell and Laumann point out that it is generally beneficial for couples to have shared friends, who contribute to a sense of couplehood and provide a base of support for the relationship. Partner betweenness is an unusual situation, however.